The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam, which roughly translated means "Wand of Light." The Lingam is honored in Tantra and is perceived as one that channels creative energy.

Performed by the female (giver) for the male (receiver). The purpose of the Lingam Massage is to:

	create relaxation and receive expanded pleasure
	provide the joy of having the man surrender to his gentler side

It is an excellent process to build trust and intimacy and is used to heal early age traumas.

The goal is to massage the Lingam and surrounding areas including the Sacred Spot (the equivalent to the female G-spot), and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.

The Male needs to learn to RELAX and RECEIVE. Traditionally the male form is conditioned to give whereas in this massage, the male experiences his more receptive side.

Before the Massage
A bath prior to the massage is advised. Take your time and breathe deeply. Conscious, relaxed breathing will take you out of your mental process and will get you more into your feelings. Connect with your partner by looking into his eyes and breathing together.

The Massage:

Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent. Pillows under the knees will be helpful. The giver sits cross-legged between the receiver's legs.

Begin with deep, relaxed breathing and then move on to gentle massaging of the limbs, followed by the abdomen. Continue to focus on the rhythmic breathing.

Pour a small quantity of high-quality oil on the shaft of the Lingam and surrounding areas. Begin gently massaging taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone.

Massage the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam, alternating with left and right hands. Do this slowly from bottom to top. Then change direction doing it from top to bottom, again alternating, with left and right hands.

Massage the head of the Lingam and then all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body and hence, several ailments can be cured by a Lingam Massage.

The Lingam may go soft and then harden as this technique is performed. This is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave.

As the receiver reaches the heights, reduce the intensity of massage allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Deep breathing is important and will provide a balance. Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. It is approximately half way between the Lingam and anus. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger. Be gentle and push inward. The pressure will be felt deep inside and may be intensely painful at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, it will heighten the feelings.