No apologies to Harry Belafonte! Here is a language where you don't need any words. Fluency in body language is sure to get you the right man and shoo away the wrong one! So, when you want that man - get down and dirty. Or, get yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love"!
Eyes Only...
The more eye contact you establish with the target (that's what he is, for now!), the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Before you know it, he'll turn to meet your gaze. Lower your eyes and smile to yourself. He'll know you were watching him and are just a bit embarrassed at being caught. Now, boldly hold his stare and smile - almost as if to yourself. Bingo! He's walking towards you.
In reverse - not interested in the guy eyeing you? Look away. If he presses on regardless, and attempts a conversation, show more interest in the ceiling! Guaranteed to send him scurrying back to where he came from!
Traffic stopping looks...
You don't have to be born looking like Jennifer Lopez, but dress right and you can make heads turn the moment you enter a room! So make sure that before you leave your front door you are looking your best - and you never know you might just land that gorgeous neighbour!
Let your hands do the talking... (not in the way you're thinking!)
There are a number of ways your hands can send signals when you want to get to know someone. Use your hands to caress objects, such as your purse or a lock of your hair in a rhythmic manner. These gestures can be very sensual. But don't overdo it - or it becomes fidgety. If you're feeling bold, try flicking something off his shirt, touching him lightly to make a point, or even the "accidental touch" when reaching for something!
Hands in pockets (unless the pocket is his!), or balled in tight fists are a no-no. Fingers tapping and drumming show boredom!
Body Beautiful...
The way you hold yourself up, (it's your posture we're talking of) can do wonders. Stand tall. Slouch and you may as well retire! Turn your body towards the man when you're talking to him. Keep your feet flat on the floor, leaning forward just a bit. Tilt your head ever so slightly... you get the picture!
And if you want to send him packing - it's easy. Just cross your arms and turn your body - watch him running for cover!
And finally...
Don't tease by offering more than you plan to give. That can get very ugly. And if he's not responding, abort. Following him around won't help, and will make you appear desperate!
 Reading the signs | Man smart, Woman smarter! |
