Couples will do well to keep in mind that it's the little things that count; small considerations that contribute to healthy relationships. No, we don't mean she needs to polish his shoes or he having to do her laundry. Doing certain things show you care, reflect attitudes and invariably make a whole lot of difference.

Let's say, you're watching TV - nothing really worthwhile. She's in the kitchen getting ready to cook dinner. You walk across and say, "Come, let me help you." All you probably do is wash the vegetables or perhaps arrange the plates on the dining table. And while you'll are both in the kitchen, you'll talk, laugh and joke about this and that. It helps relieve the monotony of the chores she's doing. You've pitched yourself in her 'comfort zone' that no matter what, you'll always be there for her. Things like this help cement relationships.

Take another scenario. You are late for work and that's pretty evident from the way you've knotted your tie. She's busy reading the morning newspaper and gives two hoots about your tie-knot, another two-hoots whether you'll have breakfast or not and maybe another two-hoots if you'll reach office on time. That's 'six-hoots'. A bit too many hoots, don't you think? The least she could do is get the bread out of the toaster, spread some butter and jam and say, "Darling, have a few quick bites while you dress. Don't stay hungry. I'll cook you a great meal tonight." But no! She's deeply engrossed in the entertainment section of the newspaper and least concerned. Neither is he. "I'll be late so don't wait up for me," he says and she's probably saying to herself, "Who cares?" What they are saying here is that we'll live our lives together, but what they actually mean is "You go your way and I'll go mine."

In the first example, the message is simple. Here's a couple that really cares for each other and willing to share responsibilities. There's harmony in their lives and importantly, laughter, signs of a relationship that's working well. The second example isn't difficult to sense. Two people, heading in two different directions. Resentment is pretty obvious.

The key to good relationships is sharing. Not just household chores, but sharing life's ups and downs, sharing intimacy, and more... When it comes to relationships, both need to understand that being possessive or resentful leads nowhere. And relationship discussions aren't big help either. The joys of relationships are in the action. And the beautiful part of a healthy relationship is about being secure and happy.

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