Dear Simi,
I am 45 years old. I use condoms while having sex, but semen releases immediately. Me and my wife are not satisfied, what is your advice for long lasting sex? - MK
Dear MK,
This is the commonest sexual problem, and you need to work it out by discussing with your partner. Try turning your mind or something else when you sense a climax is near. Indulge in other forms to keep the ecstasy, like kissing, caressing her breasts etc. Create a romantic ambience, have a shower together, to explore the lovely feelings. Seek medical advice too.
Sex & Menopause
Dear Simi,
I am 50 and my wife 45. My wife is going through the menopause phase - continuous bleeding for months on end and then it stops. Though I have asked her to meet a Gynecologist, she is comfortable with a Homeopath. Sex is few and far between, and we practice the withdrawal method. Is it okay to climax inside her now? - Srini K
Dear Srini K,
As long as you have open communication with your spouse, nothing can go wrong. Do what she is comfortable with. Give each other a lot of emotional support which is very important during the menopausal phase for both men and women.
Problem in Penetration
Dear Simi,
Whenever my wife and I have sex, I'm unable to get my penis into her vagina. How can I check if my wife is satisfied with me during intercourse? Please advice me. - Azad
Dear Azad,
Do you have a problem with erection? If you don't, then you definitely need a Doctor's advice. If its a question of a small opening of the vagina, then you can use some lubrication to penetrate. You should stimulate your partner in such a way that she is aroused and wet. This will help you to insert with ease.
A husband & wife relationship is complete only when you shed inhibitions. Open communication is very important. Speak to her and find out. If there are any health related problems, you can always sort it out by consulting a doctor. You will only increase your stress levels if you keep it within yourself and widen the gap between yourselves, thereby leading to frustration.
For Delaying Ejaculation
Dear Simi,
My husband comes very soon while having sex. This never gives me enough satisfaction. Can you give me some idea for not coming soon and suggest how to get enough satisfaction? - Linda
Dear Linda,
Great sex needs to be worked out and doesn't happen the moment you both jump into bed. Foreplay & caressing those erogenous areas can increase the joy during the intimate moments. Delaying ejaculation comes out of practice. If the problem is due to some health deficiency, then seeking medical advice is recommended.
Women & Sex
Dear Simi,
Do women also love and crave for sex before marriage. If yes, how do they express it?
- Sai
Dear Sai,
It all depends on the relationship and trust women have with their men. When they have a desire, they do express it.
Can I Marry?
Dear Simi,
I have been masturbating from the age of 13 and have enjoyed it. The foreskin on my penis is constricted and I cannot pull it down, and my penis is also very small. I am 25 now and my wedding is scheduled for this December. When I discussed my problem with a friend, he suggested that I must have a surgery. I am afraid of having a surgery. Should I drop the idea of ever getting married? Or is it possible for me to have a happy sex life in these circumstances? - Abhijeet
Dear Abhijeet,
In this advanced scientific age, when you are exposed to so much information, how can you get bogged down with what someone says? Sex and marriage is something very natural - there is nothing abnormal about it. Consult a doctor and go ahead if a minor surgery is required. I am sure you are mature enough to make your own decisions.
