Dear Simi,
What's a dental dam? How can we use it during oral sex? - Venkataraman Murali
Dear Venkataraman Murali,
A dental dam (also called an oral dam) is a six-inch square piece of thin latex. The dam is placed over the entire vulva during oral sex to prevent the possible transmission of the HIV virus from the vagina to the mouth or from the mouth to the vagina. It can also be used to prevent the spread of genital herpes.
Condom Sizes
Dear Simi,
I want to know if condoms come in different sizes such as small, medium, large and extra large. - Sanyo
Dear Sanyo,
Condoms are stretchable and are manufactured after many tests and research to suit the different sizes of the penis. But there are many variants available - you can find the details at the Kohinoor Pleasure Store.
HIV and Oral Sex
Dear Simi,
Will I get AIDS if I suck the vagina of a HIV positive woman? - Summy
Dear Summy,
Yes, the risk is very high. Any exchange of fluids with an infected partner is risky. Read through the articles under Sexual Healthcare in the Love Library.
Masturbating Daily
Dear Simi,
Is it okay to masturbate daily? Could it lead to any problems? - John D'Souza
Dear John D'Souza,
There is no problem - you don't need to feel guilty about it. However, if masturbation is your only form of sexual stimulation, it may become difficult to find pleasure without masturbating, and that could be limiting. Excessive friction or chaffing can irritate the skin. Overdoing it can also lead to some side effects like lack of concentration on normal activities, lowered sperm count or premature ejaculation.
Premature Ejaculation & Masturbation
Dear Simi,
I masturbate regularly, but when I have sexual intercourse I ejaculate very quickly. What can I do? - Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
There is a difference between ejaculation during masturbation and ejaculation during intercourse. While having sex, you need to be in rhythm with your partner's body. Most of the time, the anxiety and excitement of seeing the woman's body can tend to expedite the ejaculation. But during masturbation, you are under control and can regulate the ejaculation based on how you feel. So don't compare the two. Just make love the way your woman likes, indulge in foreplay and stimulate her erogenous areas to make her achieve orgasm. For tips on lovemaking, you can read the articles in "Pillow Talk".
Painful Urination
Dear Simi,
Sometimes I masturbate before I go to sleep. Usually there is no problem, but sometimes (and this always occurs at night, I've found), I feel like urinating after I masturbate. And when I do, it is usually very painful. The feeling doesn't pass either. My scrotum gets very tight, and there is a painful feeling above my crotch. Usually I just sit there and drink some water until the feeling goes away. Any idea why this happens? - Atul
Dear Atul,
Pain during or after urination and/ or ejaculation is sometimes a symptom of an infection of the urethra - the pathway for urine and semen. This type of infection, known as urethritis, is one of the more common infections in men. Infection that has moved past your urethra may cause swelling or a feeling of heaviness in the scrotum and testes.
Consult a Doctor.
Breast Milk
Dear Simi,
I want to have sex with my girlfriend using condoms and I also want to press her breasts harder. Is there any chance of her producing breast milk, if I want to drink her milk? - Rahul Agarwala
Dear Rahul Agarwala,
Breast Milk is secreted only when the woman is pregnant as its' a source of nourishment for the newborn. Go ahead and use condoms - as that shows you are really responsible. Handle her breasts very gently, or else it could be painful for her. Demonstrate your love by kind and thoughtful gestures, and show her you care. Demanding sex in the bedroom will make her cold and unresponsive - so pay more attention to her feelings and be gentle in your lovemaking. She is bound to reciprocate.
